Comments:

PaintingChef - 2005-10-11 11:13:11
Ahhh...your mother sounds EXACTLY like mine. With the perfect figure, great clothes, passive aggressive making me fell inferior-ness. Why are we so fiercely protective of them and so loving of them until they are in our presence and we are reminded (after then initial "Yay! MOMMY! LOVE!")of why the relationship makes us feel less than fabulous? I send you a hug, pastry, martini and a snazzy pink satin jacket.
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melati - 2005-10-11 11:37:43
When are you coming out with your book? You are SUCH a terrific wordsmith, and your life is soooo relatable. I wish I owned a publishing house so I can throw book deals and martinis at you.
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emjaybee - 2005-10-11 12:26:43
Pants should never be tucked into cowboy boots, EVER. That aside; aw, I'm sorry. I wish we could all prove your own fabulousness to you so that your mom's (different) fabulousness didn't make you so crazy. My mom and I are built exactly the same, but I still have to tell her to stop with the dieting talk already, because she hates her body and I'm pretty much at peace with mine. But if we don't talk about how fat we both are anymore, suddenly it's hard to find other things to talk about.
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Elizabeth - 2005-10-11 22:13:03
oh honey. You are amazing. I couldn't cope with having someone so fabulous as a neighbor, let alone as my mother. She sounds wonderful--but also very competitive-- which, as you describe, is painful and demoralizing. But, you have chosen to live in NYC. You have chosen a life different from hers. You have created a beautiful and exciting life filled with a husband and friends who adore you. Those things are real and true and deep and I hope that they offer balance to any erroneous feelings of inadequacy you have. I think you are the coolest. Truly.
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Sarcomical - 2005-10-12 01:20:14
i love how you put this. ...so honest and deep. it's amazing, because i bet you anything if i ran into you on the street or you were a casual acquaintance, i would say "look at that gorgeous girl with everything going for her, GOD i hate her" because i'd be jealous but yet you have all this going on inside. we all have people in our lives who can make us feel less than who we want to be, but i love how you've brought to light how much of it is internal dialogue.
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Lisa - 2005-10-12 16:51:47
Separate coasts, parallel lives! My mother does EVERYTHING better, and every time I see her, I spend the next week seething over all the ways in which I fall short. I have the longing to be a copy of all the best things about my mom, and that clashes with my longing to be a totally separate but equally good person in my own right. I just wonder: do mothers ever feel the same push-pull when it comes to daughters?
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