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Krisco - 2005-09-21 01:18:05
I don't know about the boob cake. But I DO know that the EXACT (sorry for yelling) thing happens to my husband when he gets around his mom and family, and it drives me nuts. You described it all perfectly, every bit of it. How do you get away with that, by the way? I guess you two have already had it out, so it's not like he doesn't know you think this? Or is this a really Super Secret blog?
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Julie - 2005-09-21 10:06:10
It is rather amazing. My husband does not do these things around his Mommy. His Mommy, actually, is probably the least mothering Mommy I have ever seen, but not in a bad way, more of in the "I love you enough to let you do what you want and not meddle in your affairs unless I am asked to, and then I'll meddle, but only a little bit, and only to be tactful," way. I really dig her, actually. She's not the warmest girl in the world, and we'll never be bosom buddies or whatever, but she buys good presents and leaves me alone, and I really, really think that's enough for me.
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bluepoppy - 2005-09-21 11:55:57
oh my god-- WHERE (!!) is the recipe for BOOB CAKE(!)!!? I must have it. And, do you have something against people who use apostrophes? (!) Huh? Do you!!!?
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meghan - 2005-09-21 13:32:15
Yes!!!! That happens to my boyfriend whenever we visit his parents. He is the oldest of two boys and he is the golden child, since his younger brother is a bit of a fuckup and my boyfriend is working on a PhD while his brother can barely manage finishing his BS (he's on the 7 or 8-year-plan). So whenever he is around his mommy, I can SEE him relaxing into the Golden Boy. There is always a ton of food at his parents' house, and he eats and eats and eats, and doesn't bring up his plate to the sink, and watches TV all day. He does get extra-cuddly with me, though, which is kind of sweet. And there have only been one or two times when he wants me to pick up the Mommy slack when we get home, luckily.
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hannah - 2005-09-21 13:38:40
Can we trade in-laws for Thanksgiving, at least? Because I am battling the "But we have to stay here and cook for them because what else will they do" like they don't have another son and daughter-in-law in Arizona who could cook for them or like they couldn't go out to eat like they did every year before I came along. Not that I want anyone's parents to eat Thanksgiving Dinner at Denny's, but just this once I want to have my mom's cooking again and, you know, ATTEND MY 10 YEAR HIGH SCHOOL REUNION. Is that so wrong? And it's not like we don't invite the inlaws over for dinner every frickin' weekend and they never come, anyway. I know they have problems but GOD.
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Sarcomical - 2005-09-21 18:57:02

i am sorry, but i want to be your new best friend. i just love you being crazy and boob-cake-making and expressing yourself in such a fabulously funny way and being so cute.

dammit.

i wish we'd move to nyc.

*p.s. they ALL do it.

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sarahb - 2005-09-22 10:37:50
My husband's mother is Spanish, like real Old Country, and will practically let her boys (all three of 'em) hop on her bent and tired back for a fun pretend horsey ride to Krispy Kreme when they just can't wait for the turkey to come out of the oven. I can't tell you how many times I've yelled at Ed for telling his mom he needs her to A) cut his hair, B) make him coffee, C) put out the summer sausage and crackers already, D) fold his laundry, and E) figure out how to work the hot tub out back b/c baby man doesn't understand tools, all while she's trying to put together a gourmet meal for 25 guests who will be arriving in a half hour.
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Jecca - 2005-09-22 10:57:17
Did I ever tell you about my ex-MIL? Just one example: One time when my ex-husband and I were over at her condo, he got up and walked over to the fridge to get some more milk. His mother LEAPT to her feet, SPRINTED to his side, and SNATCHED THE GLASS OUT OF HIS HAND so that she could POUR THE MILK FOR HIM.
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Joanna - 2005-09-22 14:48:50
I NEED to know how to make the boob cake. It's beautiful! (As far as boob cakes go...) But I totally empathize with you on the male regression around their mommies. My husband suddenly loses all manners and turns into a little boy pounding on the table for food. My mother-in-law PUSHED
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Joanna - 2005-09-22 14:49:29
I NEED to know how to make the boob cake. It's beautiful! (As far as boob cakes go...) But I totally empathize with you on the male regression around their mommies. My husband suddenly loses all manners and turns into a little boy pounding on the table for food. My mother-in-law PUSHED me last Thanksgiving. Physically pushed me. And he thought it was funny. Anyway, you are noble for combining the two families...all we do is try to keep ours very, very far apart!
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Al - 2005-09-23 13:24:49
Honestly... the boob cake. I hope you served him his accompanying beverage in the beloved boob mug. LOVE IT.
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Marilyn - 2005-09-25 09:28:47
Not all men get fawned over to the degree that Little Kent does, but ALL MEN(!!!) spare the mother's feelings at the wife's expense. Here's how shrewish I am on the Mommy issue...I get nearly apoplectic every time we see an awards show and a GROWN MAN(!) thanks his Mommy first!! With his WIFE(!!!!) sitting there in the audience! They're pathetic.
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emjaybee - 2005-09-25 17:18:38
Can't say the husband's mom does this. She does fuss over him, but since she's still working, she's not there to wipe his mouth or anything all the time. Plus his dad always puts him to work in the yard when he goes home, so there's a lot less coddling in general. I don't think the part about him enjoying the pampering would bother me so much. It's really hard not to fall into old roles when you visit the folks. But expecting me to do the pampering would be so not happening.
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la.dauphine - 2005-09-26 11:45:29
OMG - I am JUST like your mother-in-law with all of my OVERLY EXCITED TYPING and using LOTS of unnecissary exlamation points!!!!! I'm SO embarassed now! [!!!!] No, actually she's way worse. Is she Swiss by any chance? Any club in the meatpacking district is bullshit. ESPECIALLY anything around the horrid Hotel Gansevoort!!
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la.dauphine - 2005-09-26 11:52:06
PS - You and your friends are adorable!!!!
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PaintingChef - 2005-09-28 13:59:34
Sadly...yes. It is ALL mothers and sons. At least in my experience.
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